thoughts, part IV.
(if you’re new to these “thoughts” posts, it’s basically little things I’ve written down that intrigue me and I feel the need to share with you lot)
on one of my last weekends in kenya, my host family had a huge party at home. about 50 people came over for a late lunch where they’d eat the two goats that were freshly slaughtered that morning. preparations started the night before when makena, her aunt and her grandmother sat in the kitchen peeling potatoes. then the next morning when I woke up, there was an army of kenyan women in the kitchen; rolling dough for chapati, slicing (what looked like) a million bunches of kale to be eaten, cutting vegetables, preparing what would be lunch for about 50 people that day. I felt a bit homesick actually, because I love it when my big dysfunctional family gets together. and it felt like that, except there was no alcohol at this party… something that’s never missing from my family shindigs.
seeing evelyn, the principal at little ray of hope give the rest of her lunch to one of the smaller kids one day brought tears to my eyes. I have never met a more selfless person.
it gets me down when you see people purely ‘existing’ here. I mean that in the sense that some kids just don’t have the same opportunities to grow up and be who or what they want to be; that they have to sell fruits and vegetables by the side of the road so they can merely survive. not many of them get to dream as big as we do.
I find it hilarious that kenyans drink guinness, and a lot of it, regardless of how old or pregnant they are, because it would “keep their skin nice and evenly black”. because nobody wants uneven skin colouring.
arriving in africa, I was told to dress somewhat conservatively so as not to offend anyone. I complied for much of my stay, understanding that you have to cover up in certain areas in africa to be respectful – however everyone can go get fecked if they think I’m going to wear neck to toe coverage when it’s this bloody hot. okay, I get that wearing a crop top and short-shorts would be offensive to the many muslims here in tanzania (and I wouldn’t do it anyway), but if my “pasty white” shoulders offend you, which by the way they are no longer pasty and white, avert your eyes. it’s too goddamn hot to be polite anymore. rant over.
a very wise person once told me “you can’t grieve over everything you see here, otherwise you’d never stop grieving” (that was norwegian anna by the way). it’s so true. seeing men carrying “bunches” of chickens strung together by their feet on the dalla-dallas shocked me, initially. same with seeing men dragging goats across a road by a rope tied around their neck. or seeing baby chickens tightly crammed into cardboard boxes on the side of the road waiting to be sold. I hate animal cruelty but here, this is life. this is how people survive. I think I’ve come to terms with it a bit easier than some other people I’ve met and maybe it’s because of the “farm girl” attitude I’ve been raised with through my grandparents and my parents. I hate that people can’t handle the fact that a “cute baby animal” had to die for that delicious juicy steak or an amazing pork chop they’re eating for dinner. where did you think it came from? of course the cute things are the most delicious. (just writing about steaks is making my mouth water, I would do anything for a big bit of meat right now… I don’t know how vegetarians do this shit). you have to eat to survive. here, nothing goes to waste and nothing is more obvious for some than the will to survive.
I hate that regardless of how well practised you are – and I’ve had four and a bit months worth of practice – when using a squat toilet, if you’re a girl, you will piss on your feet. it’s inevitable. and it sucks.
the fact that it takes me almost an hour to get to work at my clinic here in tanzania. dat shit cray. in kenya, our workplaces were always within walking distance. and how I get to the clinic is as follows: get on a yellow coloured dalla dalla (matatu), ride for 20-25 mins into town, get off yellow dalla, walk 15 mins to get to red coloured dalla, ride for 20 mins, get off red dalla and walk 5 mins. but I’m not alone, this is done with about 15 other people crammed into the back of the van, most of whom are women who have done their market shopping for the day so are carrying bags of vegetables and/or dried fish and/or dead animals. delicious.
this week I got on a by motorbike for the first time since my accident. no there was no helmet, no I wasn’t wearing any protective clothing (I was only in a dress), yes I’m an idiot… I already know that, but I was lost and the dalla I got on to go home went the wrong direction and it was almost dark and I needed to get home ASAP. needless to say it won’t be happening again, I was shaking like a fool the entire ride and for about 20 mins afterwards, as well as being so sweaty, I hated the entire ride. never again. but I did it. I conquered a fear… sort of.
speaking of dalla dallas, I can safely say that before I got to tanzania, I had never before been asked to purchase a bra from a woman sitting behind me to “help support her family”. lingerie sales in the back of a public van. sorry love, but I like to try before I buy.